Chapter 235 Who is Sick?
On the barrage.

“So desperate!”

“Really, I can feel the girls suffocating.”

but. . .

Really useful?
“I’m not kidding. In this kind of conversation, I burst into tears after saying a word. I couldn’t continue talking at all (I cried to death).”

“And every time you get double the damage.”

“Yes, I told my mom, and she would ask me if I was as tired as the people carrying bricks at the construction site. (dog head)”

“Really? My mom asked me today if you are as tired as me and your dad. (Sunglasses)”

“We just started arguing after we finished talking.”

“My mother couldn’t listen to these words at all. She kept changing the subject, avoiding my gaze, and finally pointed out what I had done wrong (I gave in).”

. . . . .

Raymond Lam: “Remember, I am not asking you to change your parents, because no one has the ability to do so.

What my brother taught you is the correct communication and expression.

Since your parents have changed before, it means they have the ability to reflect on themselves.

At this time, it is crucial that you can accurately express your current feelings.

Finally, my brother gives you the nine-word mantra: Don’t be anxious, don’t be afraid, don’t be fearful, and don’t be shameless.

These nine words can solve most of your anxieties in life.

Shameless doesn’t mean the shameless feeling of cursing people, but it means that we have a strong ability to withstand setbacks.

It doesn’t matter if I fall, I will just stand up and keep moving forward. This is the quality of a successful person.

Remember, sister?”

Girl: Yeah, I’ll remember Brother Atong. ”

Lin Feng: “I’m following you on Douyin. Add me on WeChat later. If you have any questions, feel free to contact me.”

Girl: “That’s great, thank you, Brother Atong.”

Lin Feng: “Okay sister, I’m going to chat with your mother now, you go do your homework.”

it is good!
Goodbye, Brother Atong.

Lin Feng: “Come on, parents, tell me.”

The other party was silent for a while, then sighed and said, “What you just said… had a great impact on me. Many times… I really didn’t consider Jingjing’s feelings too much.”

Lin Feng interrupted, “Parent, now is not the time for self-reflection. Save these words for when you get off the mic and talk to your child yourself.

What I want to hear now is what happened at the parents’ meeting that caused your attitude to change suddenly.”

Woman: “My child will be in his third year of high school in September, and the class teacher convened a parent meeting to mobilize him to prepare for the final exam.

After I went there, his teacher said that our child would not lie flat, nor would she make mistakes, she just sat there neither moving up nor down.

After I got home, I talked to her and she always said, “Mom, don’t worry. I can take care of my own affairs. I will find ways to improve my studies.”

But every time I take an exam, it’s the same, neither going up nor down, no sense of breakthrough, her father and I are a little bit… “

Lin Feng smiled: “Don’t lie down, don’t make mistakes, what else do you want?

Shouldn’t this be a compliment?

Why does it become a derogatory statement and a sign of lack of motivation in the mouths of teachers and the ears of parents?
Not lying down and not making mistakes means that one is working hard.

Now you tell me you haven’t seen any results.

Then let me ask you,

Are you working hard?
Did you double your salary?
Have you moved into a bigger house?

My salary didn’t double, and I didn’t move into a bigger house. Can I understand that as a result?
No results means you didn’t work hard, right?

Come on parents, tell me why you don’t work hard! ”

Uh. .

The woman was suddenly speechless.

Lin Feng: “Isn’t this a principle?”

This parent,

Your child is in the third year of high school.

Don’t lie down and don’t make mistakes. You don’t really think it’s easy, do you?
How many people are there in your unit?

Are you competing with yourself?
Do you know how many students are in your child’s class and how many students are in one grade?
Why is there no sense of advancement and no sense of progress?
You really don’t have any back pain when you talk while standing.

Your child goes to the best high school in the city.

Who among us doesn’t work hard?
Who doesn’t stay up until two or three o’clock every day?

Let me give you an analogy.
The college entrance examination is a lonely battle.
At this moment, you and your child are walking on a country road. You and your child are driving up the mountain and encounter a tiger.
As a result, you kicked the child out.

Then you say: Come on, kid, mom is counting on you, you can definitely defeat this tiger, come on, come on, come on.

As a result, you see your child is in a stalemate with the tiger for a long time, and sometimes he hides behind a tree thinking about how to attack.

As a result, you got anxious while sitting in the car.

You scold your child: “You are stupid, why don’t you rush forward?” I believe you can defeat the tiger, and then push your child out from behind.

You are so awesome!
Now let me ask you, why don’t you go up and fight?

Why don’t you get out of the car and join the tiger?
How did you do in the college entrance examination?
Tell me first if you have been admitted to a prestigious university. “

The woman stammered, “I… am just a junior high school student, I didn’t take the college entrance examination.”

Lin Feng slammed the table and said, “Don’t you think this is infuriating? You’re just a junior high school student, you want to mess with him?
Dear parent, you have never experienced high school, and you don’t know the hardship of the college entrance examination.
Why do you think your child is not working hard?

Why do you think so?

I ask you, how much do you earn per month now? “

Woman: “About 6,000 or 7,000.”

Lin Feng: “I will make you earn over 10,000 now, go ahead.”

Uh. .

Lin Feng said unhappily: “Now you know how difficult it is?
Why hasn’t your income exceeded 10,000 yuan in all these years?

Is it because you don’t work hard?

Is it because you are not enterprising?

I tell you, your child’s college entrance examination is definitely more difficult than yours.

You have to know how many people are there in your company? How many colleagues are there? There are millions of candidates competing for the college entrance examination. Isn’t that scary?

You always think that she doesn’t work hard, but in fact your child has already tried her best.

If you mess with her again, your child will really be dead.”

Woman: “The teacher asked me to go talk to her.”

Lin Feng shook his head and sighed, “Let me tell you this, all the students who dropped out of school and laid low, none of your teachers and parents are innocent.

I don’t know what’s wrong with the teacher now.

During breaks, if the children were laughing in the classroom, the teacher would glare at them if he passed by.

The child was so frightened that he stopped laughing.

When they see the teacher, they are as terrified as mice seeing a cat.

I just don’t understand.

Why can’t these teachers see children happy?
Does happiness mean doing nothing?
Does happiness mean not doing your job properly?
Don’t children have the right to be happy?

Can’t teachers be happy with children?”

. . . . .

On the barrage.

“Don’t mention it, it’s true. The teacher doesn’t let the children laugh.”

“During the break, my child was laughing and joking with a few classmates in the class. The teacher actually passed by and saw it. Then everyone had to write a 2000-word self-reflection (not understanding).”

“To be honest, I am a class teacher myself. I am just as confused as you are. I can’t figure it out either, and I am indeed the same way.”

“The teaching method needs to be improved.”

“Schools are all like this. It’s so hard to change.”

. . . . . .

Raymond Lam: “Not only teachers, but parents as well, cannot bear to see their children being too happy.
I can’t bear to see a child watching TV leisurely.

You said that the child has finished his homework, and he lies there for a while, rests for a while, and leisurely crosses his feet on the sofa.
Parents can’t stand this.

They expect their children to sit there 24 hours a day reading and doing homework with a frown on their faces.

They all think that this is the only serious thing a child can do, and it is also the thing that makes parents happiest.

honestly,
Don’t you feel uncomfortable seeing this?

Why can’t we be happy together? How sad.

Don’t teachers and parents reflect on this?
Why do you get so upset when your children are happy?
Is it really true that children shouldn’t smile?
As long as she smiles, does that mean she is not studying seriously? “

The woman is silent.

Raymond Lam: “So who is the problem? Is it really the child? Is it possible that you are sick?
Dear parent, let me tell you a story.

true story.

When I was in high school, there was a closed high school next door.

It’s quite famous in our area too.

Because it is a closed high school, students go home once a month.

A boy who was in the third year of high school at that time.

I used to be very tired when I woke up at 5:30 every day at school. I went home once a month, so I just wanted to have a good rest.
As a result, after returning home, he still couldn’t rest because his parents forced him to study and didn’t let him rest.
After a long time, the boy felt very tired and his body could not bear it anymore.

I told my parents that I wanted to take a day off.

When his mother heard this, she said, “Don’t be lazy unless you are sick.” She turned around and took the child to the hospital.

The doctor took a look and said that he was overworked and had a slight depression.

I got him some medicine and sent him back to school.

From then on, every time the boy came home and said he was tired, his parents would ask him to take medicine.

If you take too much of that medicine, it will have side effects and your memory will deteriorate a lot.

Later, the boy failed to get into university.

After a while, the boy’s emotions exploded.

His mother thought he was ill.
Finally, my husband and I sent him to a mental hospital.

After being locked up in a mental hospital for three months and receiving injections, medications, and electric shocks, the boy was finally discharged.

After being discharged from the hospital, the boy couldn’t hold back anymore and cried to his parents about how miserable the mental hospital was and asked them to go and experience it for themselves.
In the end, the parents really went.

The hospital checked.
Here comes the fun.

This can cause one parent to have severe anxiety and the other to have severe depression.

The hospital admitted his parents immediately.

After being locked up for fifteen days, his parents had injections and took medicine, and their lips turned purple.

The parents were still unconvinced and took their child to several authoritative hospitals in Kyoto for further diagnosis.

It turns out that the child is normal, but the parents are actually a little mentally ill.”

woman:. . .

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

“Many of the mentally ill patients who are diagnosed and hospitalized actually have close friends who are ill first, and then they are forced to become mentally ill, because only a more severe mental illness can defeat a mental illness.”

“My brother had surgery on his stomach in the morning, and my dad sent him to school in the afternoon.”

“Well, when you grow up, if you have the conditions, you can live in the next province.”

“No, as far away as possible.”

“Really, every child who goes to a psychiatrist is first diagnosed by their parents.”

“I fully agree.”

“I went to the hospital to see a psychiatrist, but my dad insisted on staying in with me. He kept talking to me, and then the doctor asked me to leave and made an appointment for him.”

Hahahahaha.

. . . . . .

Raymond Lam: “Parent, if you can reflect on yourself, give your child some freedom, and believe that she has her own pace,
Her peak outbreak period will be March next year at the latest.

You haven’t experienced the college entrance examination, but I have.

I think you can trust me.”

The woman was silent for a moment and then said, “Okay, I believe you.”

Lin Feng: “Okay, let’s go down.”

Hang up the mic,
Raymond Lam said to the live studio:
“Brothers, Alexander!

As an emotional strategist, I have to guarantee people’s academic performance.

I’m drunk too!”

Turning back: “Brother Shui, do you think there is something wrong with what I just said?”

Yu Huanshui shook his head: “That’s very good, there’s nothing wrong with it.”

You have to support me!
Turning around, Lin Feng looked at the public screen and said:
“I just saw someone on the barrage saying that without rules, there will be no order. Everyone is laughing and joking, just like in a vegetable market. Do we still need to go to class?
I can only tell you guys that if you want to be slaves, that’s your business.
It doesn’t mean this thing is right.

Some people say that this is how we all went through it when we were kids.

I actually laughed.

You made it through this, so others must also make it through, right?
You still have the mentality of a cow or a horse.

Everyone does this, so it’s okay?
What are you deceiving yourselves about?

What era is it now? Are you still wrapping your cerebellum?

You are suppressing children’s innocence and restricting their thinking.

We should not suppress our children during the boring, long and arduous study.

Instead, we should find happiness and joy for our children.

We must stand shoulder to shoulder with children and help them achieve a brilliant life.

This is what a normal parent should do.

And the reality is,

You and the teachers have been in long-term hypnosis, blaming the children, belittling the children, and trampling on the children’s dignity.

What did you get in the end?
I don’t know whether you can get into college, but your parent-child relationship must be very bad.

What do you think is the most important thing in life?
money?

Family affection?

Happiness, joy, or freedom?

I am not saying that you must choose between money and family.

They can coexist.

But the prerequisite is that the parents are smart enough.

Abandon repressive education and grow up happily with your children.
Go and help the child to get rid of that obstacle. “

I saw someone in the barrage saying that children of this era have very poor ability to withstand setbacks.

Have you ever thought that the children of this era face much greater pressure than you did back then?
Many people may not agree with what I said.

Come,
Today, the military advisor will tell you why?
Because this is an era of information explosion, an era with more choices.

When people are ignorant and have no choice, that is when they are under the least pressure.

Because you are ignorant, you use your limited vision to see that in the narrow environment you live in, every child is beaten by their parents.
You take it for granted that being beaten by your parents is no big deal.

The pain from the belt hitting my body didn’t seem to be that painful anymore.

But one day, you see with your own eyes a family whose words are so warm, with no violence, only warmth and encouragement.

You are no longer ignorant,

You realize there’s more than one way to live.

If you are beaten severely at that time, it will not only hurt your body but also your heart.

You will ask yourself this over and over again.

Why are other families so warm?
Why did other children show such fear and disbelief when they heard me being beaten with belts by my parents?
You will destroy yourself over and over again in your heart.

Those who post barrage comments,

Stop talking nonsense to me.

I stand here today.
I can admit in front of 5 people in a room that I wasn’t a perfect kid.

Admit that you still have many shortcomings.

Admit that you are not as good as others.

how about you?
Do you have the courage to admit to your children that you are not a perfect parent?
Do you have the courage to admit that you are not smart enough and can only treat him in the most brainless, simplest and crudest way?
You dare?
You dare not!

You don’t even have the courage.
Why are you arguing with me?

Nothing at all! “

(End of this chapter)