Chapter 149 Why is this time so decisive?

On the barrage.

“Is this… really a disease… I thought I wasn’t sick (picking nose)”

“When I was emotional, I was like a madman.”

“Don’t worry, there are few normal people in this world.”

“To put it in an analogy, mental illness is like a cold. There are so many people in the world, and there are always people who catch colds from time to time, so there is no such thing as a completely normal person mentally.”

“I switch between mental illness and neurosis (dog head)”

“It’s my first time being a human, and I’m not doing a good job (laughing and crying)”

“you do not say!”

Hahahahaha.

. . . . .

Ding~
“Hello, military advisor.”

The person who connected to the microphone was a boy.

Raymond Lam: “Hello, do you have any emotional problems?”

“Military Advisor, I’m 29 and she’s 30. We’re currently breaking up.”

Raymond Lam: “How long have you been in love?”

“Seven years.”

Raymond Lam: “After seven years of dating, you are old enough to get married and get a marriage certificate. What went wrong?”

The man was silent for a while and then said, “It’s hard to say. I’m also in a state of confusion right now.”

Raymond Lam: “Then let me ask, who of you proposed the breakup?”

“No one mentioned breaking up, so I guess that’s tacit agreement.”

Raymond Lam: “Is it caused by practical problems?”

“Maybe she is completely disappointed in me.”

Lin Feng nodded: “The breakup is caused by accumulated disappointment.”

“So it’s because of the little things and trivialities of daily life that you quarrel more?”

“The core is that I have a low desire to express myself.”

Raymond Lam: “That means the response is not positive enough. When you are together with the other person, there is no topic to talk about, and the two of you don’t communicate.”

“That’s pretty much it.”

Lin Feng: “Dude, that’s because the other party feels a kind of emotional indifference, and it’s really unbearable. I’ve said it many times, but you haven’t made any changes, and I feel that my emotions are being ignored.”

“Yes, that should be what it means.”

Lin Feng: “Brother, to put it bluntly, you are just relying on the other person’s love for you and are fearless in ignoring the changes in each other’s emotions when you are together.

You think that I have been dating you for seven years, and we have been together for a long time. We are already an old married couple, so some things are unnecessary, right?”

The man suddenly fell silent.

. . . .

On the barrage.

Zui Qingfeng: “In the beginning, we had endless things to talk about and would talk on the phone for hours, but after half a year, we started to have nothing to talk about.”

Yoko: “He and I are at the same stage. I often wonder if he is too tired from work or if he is no longer interested in me.”

Luo Luo: “We used to chat all day long, but now it feels awkward. I reply with either um or oh. I really don’t know what to say.”

“How can I have nothing to say? Every sunset is different.”

“Don’t be so exaggerated.”

Hahahahaha.

. . . .

Raymond Lam: “How long have you been apart?”

“Almost three months.”

Lin Feng: “Have the two parties been in contact during these three months?”

“There’s basically no contact.”

Raymond Lam: “Have you tried to redeem yourself?”

“Had.”

Raymond Lam: “Did the other party respond? Or what was their attitude?”

“Basically there was no response.”

Lin Feng sighed, put down the blackboard and said, “Brother, the other party has completely burned his heart out.”

“Brother,

I tell you,
In fact, you broke up because your attitude and some of your actions could not meet the other party’s requirements.

In fact, the most essential and core thing is that you lacked some impulse in this seven-year relationship.
What impulse?
It’s the impulse of love.

I have always advised against treating love as a long-distance race, because if you treat love as a long-distance race, you will find that you will lack stamina and explosive power later. Logically speaking, if you have not drifted apart for seven years, you should use another identity to completely bind the two people together.
Time has dragged on for too long and my heart has become numb.

You haven’t thought about proposing to her for all these years, which means you’ve weighed the pros and cons a little too much, buddy.”

The man was silent again.

. . . . .

On the barrage.

“Four years, very calm, and I know the answer from his attitude.”

“Just finished a six-and-a-half-year run.”

“My friend broke up with me. He said he wasn’t sad, but I cried. We’ve been together for 5 years and were about to get married. How could that person change so suddenly? Is this what love is like?”

“Ten years, it sounds scary, but in fact, it will all be gone in the wind. The result is not important, the process of loving someone is important, because the result… is always the same.”

What the hell!

This sentence is so sad to hear.

“It turns out that everyone’s love life is terrible (breaking down in tears)”

. . . . .

Lin Feng: “Come on buddy, let’s get straight to the point. Do you have any questions for me?”

“I have two questions. The first is that I don’t understand. We were like this before, so why is she so determined this time? The second is that I feel guilty and I don’t know if I can still make amends.”

Lin Feng knocked on the small blackboard.

“Come on buddy,

Let me answer your first question first.

You can’t explain why the other party suddenly became so determined this time.

I tell you,

If someone has truly loved you in a relationship, regardless of whether they are a man or a woman, their breakup must have been “planned” for a long time.

But at the same time they will give you a final probation period before breaking up.

of course,

She won’t tell you this.

She will judge whether the decision to break up with you is right based on the last period of time she spends with you.

In other words, she doesn’t know whether it’s right or not.

This means that when she makes this decision, you can change it.

But the prerequisite is that you have to be aware of it.

You can tell something is wrong with her.

For example, she may suddenly stop clinging to you and become quiet and less talkative.

A person who used to talk about everything suddenly became silent.

Even if she has been wronged a little, she is unwilling to tell you about it.

Then she is most likely entering a probation period.

If you really notice and change, it is possible to save the relationship.

But if you really don’t realize it, and have entered the probation period that the other party has given you, but you are still doing your own thing and are completely unaware of it,
Then I can only say,
You will completely dishearten the other person.

So we often say that when someone truly leaves, the sound is often very small.

It’s just that you didn’t realize it.

. . . . .

On the barrage.

“I just entered the probation period, but I hardly noticed it. Finally, the day came when she broke up and left completely. Looking back, she was indeed very different during that period.”

“It was me. When I was about to give up, I struggled for a long time and felt very painful inside! He didn’t notice and continued to hurt me even more. I left and I finally felt at peace.”

“It would be great if I could get the military advisor sooner (crying)”

“Haha, true love doesn’t have a probation period.”

“The inspection is over. You are a love-minded person.”

Hahahahaha.

. . . . .

Raymond Lam: “Back to your relationship, the other party did not break up with you suddenly because of a specific incident.
She is a kind of accumulated disappointment.
In the past, when you were in a relationship, you didn’t talk or communicate.

She was disappointed.

But I still give you chances again and again in my heart, wanting to see if you can make changes.

When you ignore her every time, it becomes a minus point system.

When it drops to 0 points,
That’s when she leaves you completely.

That’s why she was so determined.
That’s your first question.”

(End of this chapter)