Lin Feng: “Sister, I’m not saying you can’t leave. It’s your freedom to leave or not.
And my brothers who are familiar with me know that I have always tended to advise people to separate.

But the problem is, I haven’t heard any bad habits from him.

For example, what if he cheated on you or abused you?

If you really have any bad habits and you want to leave them, I can understand.

But you said that our values ​​are different and our thinking is different. Are you crazy?”

Woman: “No, we had a fight that day.”

Raymond Lam: “Just do it, that’s better than a cold war.
Besides, there is no good person who would never fight in his life.

All that matters is that we can make peace after the fight.

It’s just a fight, it’s not a big deal. It’s not like I’m beating you unilaterally.

is not it?
Just do it as a couple, it’s better than not talking to each other all day long.

But what we should pay attention to is to take good precautions next time we fight.

Don’t play it at home, as it may easily break things in the house, and you will have to buy new ones later.

When you go there, you will usually find a Sanda gym or a boxing gym.

Two people just need to put on gloves and go on stage to fight.

What is this called?
This is what we call a beating is love and a scolding is love. If you really want to win, you have to go to the ring.”

The woman was inexplicably surprised: “You can still play like this?”

Lin Feng: “No, usually they feel better after fighting, and then they go out to eat hot pot and watch a movie, and then they are back to normal.”

Woman: “Then I feel relieved. Thank you, brother.”

You’re welcome.

Go down and live a good life.

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

“Hitting is love, scolding is affection. Real couples should go to the ring, hahahaha.”

“The key is that the sisters really listened to it (laughing and crying).”

“The situation suddenly opened up (dog head).”

“Hahahaha, I’m dying of laughter.”

. . . . . . .

Lin Feng took a puff of cigarette and said to the live studio: “Remember to wear protective gear when boxing. If you two can’t tell the winner from the loser,
Generally, there are coaches and referees in a boxing gym.

You ask a referee to come, you give him 100 yuan, and the referee asks to see the points, then do it professionally.

The referee will decide who wins and who loses.

After the fight, both of you will be out of anger. Don’t go into the cold war or feel anxious when you go back.
Then I picked up the kids and went to eat hotpot together. We were so happy.

It doesn’t matter if you lose the fight, just wait until he’s older.
Because generally girls are healthier and can live longer.
Wait until he becomes an old man, then you can fight back.

Take me for example. Ten years later, if I have a stroke or become paralyzed,

You said I remembered that you hit me 10 more times 20 years ago, and now you are paralyzed, I want to return those 20 punches.

If you’re okay, just sigh, but I won’t necessarily really hit you, I’m just trying to scare you.

Next time I say “ah” again, when you think I’m scaring you, I’ll really hit you.

Don’t you think it’s good for the couple to live like this? They can get by.”

. . . . .

On the barrage

“You punched me 10 more times 20 years ago, hahahaha.”

“Don’t be so vindictive (laughing and crying).”

“Brother, don’t teach me everything (covering my face and laughing).”

“My friend, are you scared (dog head)?”

Hahahahaha.

. . . . . .

Raymond Lam: “I’d like to give you some advice, brothers, couples should try to talk less about values ​​and thoughts.

why?

I have told you that in the first 30 years, everyone received a different education, had a different family environment, and grew up in a different environment, which led to differences in your three views and ideas.

So there is no need to discuss this matter in a drastic manner.

It depends on what kind of person he is. Just be nice to you.

Why are so many people talking about the three views now?
After all, we have been brainwashed by the chicken soup on the Internet, and we have a filter for both love and marriage.

I always feel that there is someone who is perfect for me.

Don’t think about it.

No.

If so, it means that this person is downwardly compatible with you. You think you have found the perfect partner in your mind, but in the eyes of the other person, you are not.

Because he is downwardly compatible with you, from his perspective, your three views are also different.

So when a couple is together, don’t fucking discuss their values.

Pointless.

Let me give you an example. You all know that you don’t like watching Korean dramas. You don’t like watching those dramas about overbearing CEOs. I think that kind of drama is stupid.

But I won’t argue with my girlfriend just because she likes Korean dramas.
Do you understand what I mean?

I can allow her to be herself.

Marriage is like this, there are no two people who are completely suitable for each other, problems can only be solved when they arise.

To put it more cruelly, no one in this world can truly understand your heart, so people are lonely from beginning to end, and there should be no filter for marriage.

The best way to have a marriage is to solve problems when they arise.”

. . . . .

On the barrage.

“Today’s Quote: The best way to have a marriage is to solve problems when they arise (thumbs-up)”

“Less talk, really.”

“Don’t talk too much to anyone. There’s nothing to talk about with your heart. (Smile)”

“But my husband and I have similar values ​​and often have heart-to-heart talks. I think heart-to-heart talks are a very pleasant thing for us.”

“Let’s say, is it possible that your husband is trying to be compatible with you (dog head)?”

“You feel happy talking to him because he is trying to please you in everything, but he may not really think so in his heart (sunglasses).”

The sisters were confused.

Hahahahaha.

. . . . . .

Raymond Lam: “Allow others to be themselves and allow yourself to be yourself.

For example, if I like ancient books, I don’t have to find a girlfriend who also likes reading ancient books. If I want to communicate, I can find brothers in the ancient book circle.

Everyone has more to talk about.

For example, if I like fishing, I can go fishing with a group of friends. I don’t need to force my girlfriend to sit there in the hot sun and get her makeup ruined.

She won’t be happy either.
Why bother?
As long as we care about each other, support each other and help each other when we live together at home, that will be enough.

Don’t have a perfect filter for your partner.

There is no such thing as someone who completely understands you.

They all have shortcomings.

If you like this person, you should tolerate and allow him to be different from you. This is called equality.

Many people say that we can’t communicate.

I want to ask, is that communication?

Communication is me expressing my theory, and you don’t necessarily have to support me. You can express your own theory that is different from mine, and I won’t refute it. This is called equal communication.

Many people engage in so-called equal communication. As long as the other party gives a different answer from yours, you start to say things like, “Why does this person have such a mindset? Why is he so disgusting?”

Then what are we still talking about?
You asked others to speak, and their opinions don’t suit your taste, but you still act the same way. Aren’t you a dictator?
For example, a guy said in a live broadcast room that he and his wife discussed the Russia-Ukraine issue.

He asked his wife who she supported, and his wife said it doesn’t matter, she doesn’t care.

Then he had a quarrel with his wife.
Say this is about our geopolitics.

No buddy, there’s something wrong with you.

She just hasn’t cared about this for so many years. She may just be doing the daily chores and taking care of the children, and not caring about these things.

You insist on asking, and when people say they don’t care, you get angry again.

There are also some girls, for example, if a male star cheated on his girlfriend today, or abandoned the girl who had been with him for a long time,
Girls ask boyfriend what he thinks?
The boy said, “I don’t know,” or maybe he just felt that everyone was wrong based on your statement.

As a result, you can’t do it.
You said you actually spoke for the scumbag, and then you had a quarrel.

Isn’t this fucking sick?
The premise of equal communication is that you allow the other party to express themselves.

You can’t even communicate on an equal footing, and you want to tell me about your values?
What good can you be?”

. . . . . . .

On the barrage.

“It’s over. I suddenly realized that I’m not a good person (laughing and crying).”

“I think I have this problem too (grin).”

“What you thought was communication was just a dispute over ideas.”

Arguing about ideas hahahaha.

“It was originally a perfect match. The word “spiritual resonance” is a lie. It’s foolish to believe it (dog head).”

“Be harmonious but different. Allow others to be themselves and allow yourself to be yourself. (Thumbs up)”

I understand. (End of this chapter)