Raymond Lam: “When we talk about equal communication, it is not just between husband and wife, but also between boyfriend and girlfriend, parents and children.

For example, your child sleeps a little longer on weekends and doesn’t want to get up.

You asked him why he didn’t do his homework?
The child said that he had too much homework and had to make up classes in the evening, so he was a little tired and wanted to sleep more.

You let them say that, but you got angry after hearing it. You are tired, but isn’t mom tired? Isn’t dad tired? Aren’t we tired from working every day?

Then you let the child speak. If the child says he is tired, you can just coax him.

Even if you can’t solve this problem, after all, you have paid for the tuition and you can’t skip it, right? Then you can tell your child that mom knows you’ve worked hard and you should go to bed early today.

We’ll take a day off tomorrow and take you to the park or somewhere else to play.

Even if it’s just to comfort you,
You said you let him talk, but when the child said he was tired, you said, “Mom, I’m not tired?”

Then you let the child say something.”

okay,

So be it.

Ding~
“Hey bro.”

It’s a girl.

Raymond Lam: “Hello sister, what’s the problem?”

Woman: “I want to consult about the relationship between husband and wife, because my husband and I have been married for six years, and our child is 4 years old.
But in the past two years, we have been quarreling constantly, and very frequently.
Then we had another fight the night before yesterday, and it was a serious fight. I even hit him, and he asked for a divorce from me. ”

Lin Feng laughed: “If they are not sisters, many of them are sisters-in-law who have been abused at home. You, are you abusing your husband?”

Woman: “That’s because…”

Lin Feng raised his hand to interrupt: “Why can’t you do this? Generally, when a boy hits a girl, we call it domestic violence.

Now if you hit a boy, that is of course considered domestic violence.

Just because you are a girl, you don’t have an excuse.

Domestic violence is always wrong.

Do you understand? “

woman:. . .

Lin Feng: “Okay, tell me your reasons.”

Woman: “Should I start from the beginning?”

Lin Feng: “You don’t have to start from the beginning. Just tell us what caused the conflict and how you got slapped in the face?”

Woman: “I didn’t smoke that much. Actually, my father didn’t agree with our marriage when we first got married. At that time, we both wanted to be together, and then…”

Raymond Lam interrupted: “Oh, it can be summed up in one sentence. My father didn’t agree to the marriage at that time, so what was the conflict?

Don’t talk about how difficult it was to be together. Just talk about the conflict that led to it. Don’t bring up the past or talk about the past.”

Woman: “The conflict is that when we got married, my father asked my mother-in-law’s family for 8 yuan. This money was not included in the betrothal gift, nor in the three golds. It was nothing.”

Lin Feng: “I understand, your father insisted on asking for 8 yuan from their family.”

Woman: “Yes, yes, that’s right. Now we are well off and don’t need a few tens of thousands of dollars, but my husband always brings this up.

The night before yesterday, while having dinner, he talked about this matter again.

But I was quite resistant and didn’t want to hear about this. I said that the situation had already come to this, my father was wrong, but I had no other choice. What good solution could I have? “

Lin Feng: “Let me tell you this, why is your husband so angry? The betrothal gift was given, and all the etiquette was in place.
On the wedding day, your father forced 8 yuan out of my pocket.

Not to mention your husband, this is something that no man can handle.

But he doesn’t dare to confront your father directly, so he can only nag you every day.

But you are useless. You can neither give him comfort nor provide emotional value. His mother herself feels annoyed, so she has been bothered by this issue until six years after you got married.

In the final analysis, it’s not your husband who is stingy, it’s you who is stupid.”

???

The woman was dissatisfied: “What can I do?”

Lin Feng: “Look, this is where you are stupid.

When he complains to you, you say, what can I do?
What you said is the same as what many sisters-in-law in my live broadcast room say when they come up to complain about their useless husbands.

You tell your husband about your mother, and your husband says, “That’s my mother. What can I do?”
It’s over,

My sister-in-law is devastated.

One by one, they came up to the microphone to complain.

Isn’t this a reason?

It’s just that the gender is switched.

Still don’t understand?

Let’s put ourselves in their shoes.

You quarreled with your mother-in-law today, and then you said bad things about her in front of your husband. If your husband says, “What can I do?” or “My mother is actually a very good person,” can this matter be let go?

No way.

You must be even angrier.

Similarly, your mother-in-law will also say bad things about you in front of your husband. If your husband says that his wife is very good, then it’s over, and your mother-in-law will be even more angry.

All right,

Both sides were offended.

He is neither a good son nor a good husband.”

Woman: “Yes, yes, that’s exactly what I’m experiencing now.”

Raymond Lam: “So we must change our thinking at this time.

When you say bad things about my mother, I will say, yes, yes, yes, my mother is too strong and I find her annoying too. I should break off relations with her.

If you listen to me, you will feel relieved.

Because you know I can’t really cut off ties with my mother. After all, she is my biological mother. I can’t do that.

Similarly, when my mother talked to me about my wife, I said, “Mom, you are right. I have always felt that this woman is a spendthrift and does not know how to live. If it doesn’t work out, I will divorce her.”
Anyway, I think you can take care of your grandson yourself.

At this time, mom thinks, forget it, you still have to live your life alone, mom will just endure it, after all, she can’t really let her son get divorced.

In this way, neither side is offended and both sides become good people.

But you don’t, even if you keep a peaceful attitude,

Your partner may get angry and think that you are still on your mother’s side.

I still have this idea.

So, you might as well just go along with what he says.

If that’s really not possible, I won’t go home for the New Year.

You said my dad treated you like that, and I was really angry.

If we had listened to him, we might not have been able to get married.

I think he is a real jerk. How can he ask you for 8 yuan when getting married?
Your husband really wronged you.

Okay, I tell you, my husband is feeling better now and his anger has subsided.

Next time your father talks about your husband, say, “Yes, yes, yes, he is a nobody. He should have listened to you.”

Be a good person on both sides and don’t be a bad person on either side.

If someone speaks ill of you, just go along with him.

Otherwise you will offend both sides.
Anyway, the other side can’t hear what you say.
If they are both sitting together, then you should keep silent.”

. . . . . .

On the barrage

“Whoever says something bad to you, you will side with him (laughing and crying) I have learned that.”

“The host is so wise at such a young age (thumbs-up).”

“My parents help me look after the parking lot. Sometimes they can’t arrange the vehicles properly and my husband comes home to complain. My mom calls me in advance to tell me the reason. I tell him he has a bad temper and tell him not to argue with him. I’ll yell at him when he comes back.

My mother said forget it, you still have to live your life.

Then when my husband came back and was about to complain, I said that they were indeed wrong. I had been yelling at them for more than ten minutes and had made them angry.

Then my husband told me not to yell at them anymore because they are old. Actually, I didn’t yell at them at all. I just chatted with my mom until I had enough time. (Laughing and crying)”

“Smart (awesome).”

“I have to learn this, because my dad doesn’t like my husband either. Every time I say something nice about my husband, he gets even angrier (covering his face and laughing).”

“Just follow your dad’s lead. Dad is right. I’ll divorce him and come back so you can support me (dog head).”

Guess whether dad is smiling or not.

Hahahahaha.

“I suddenly realized that I might have been cheated by my husband. We have been married for more than ten years, and we have had two unhappy arguments. Each time, my husband wanted to quarrel with his father, and I had to stop him and say good things to my father-in-law.
After listening to what my eldest brother said, I suspected that my husband was acting on my behalf, and that my father-in-law might also be saying bad things about me (angry).”

“Big socks, you don’t have to doubt it.”

“It’s your turn.”

Hahahahaha.

. . . . . .

Lin Feng: “After the quarrel, you just started fighting?”

Woman: “No, we got more and more excited as we talked, and the child was beside us. We argued so much that the child started crying.

I was a little emotional, I didn’t want to stay in this house anymore, so I walked out.

The kid pulled me and wouldn’t let me go, and then he pulled me back.

The more he pulled me, the angrier I got, and I couldn’t help but hit him.”

Raymond Lam: “Sister, you sound like a fool when you say that, but in fact you are very strong in life.

There has always been a phenomenon in my live broadcast room, that is, some people come on stage and act strong, saying that if the big brother is really not good enough, then I will divorce him.

To be honest, if you could get a divorce, why would you still contact me?
To put it bluntly, she has no say at home, but she acts so tough online. I say this kind of woman is the most stubborn.

But there are some people who obviously act weak, but are actually very strong in reality, like you.

You are so angry that you want to run away from home in front of your child, without considering the child’s feelings at all.

You are very selfish and tough.

Someone stopped you from running away from home, but you got angry and beat him up.

You are about to get married, but your father asks for 8 yuan.
Let me be honest, if you didn’t stand on your father’s side, would he be able to get 8 yuan?

After all, it is because you are strong and you are in an absolutely dominant position in the relationship.

The woman suddenly fell silent.

Lin Feng grabbed a handful of melon seeds and said while eating them: “I haven’t told you how you beat him yet. Tell me the details.”

Well. . .

Woman: “I didn’t slap him in the face. I just hit him all over the place.”

Lin Feng smacked his lips and said, “Let me tell you, you girls may not feel that being beaten doesn’t hurt.

But to be honest, some girls elbow each other.
For example, if you are angry and a boy wants to hug you or comfort you, you can use your elbow to nudge him, saying, “Don’t touch me, don’t touch me, don’t touch me.”
To be honest, if you are a guy with a generally thin body, just don’t touch me, don’t touch me, but that elbow hit, two hits will break your bones.

Do you think it won’t hurt if you hit the other person randomly?

You weren’t acting like a spoiled child, you also said you were getting angrier and angrier, so you must have used all your strength to hit him.

Boys are made of flesh and blood too, they feel pain and they cry too, okay?”

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

“Don’t touch me, don’t touch me, don’t touch me… Big brother is so understanding (laughing and crying).”

“It broke my bones in two hits (covering my face and laughing).”

“Hahaha really, I never elbow.”

“I’ve seen women beat their husbands so badly that their faces were bruised and swollen, but they were too embarrassed to tell me and said they fell yesterday. Don’t ask me how I know.”

“Tell your story (dog head).”

The last sentence was leaked hahahahahahaha.

. . . . . . .

Raymond Lam: “A lot of the time it’s you guys who weaken women, but actually some little punches are pretty painful, right?

No kidding, when I was a kid, my cousin chased me and beat me every day. She said she was my cousin, but she was only one day older than me.

But I just can’t beat her.

To be honest, my head was beaten by my cousin when I was a child and I was dizzy. I have never been sober since then.
My head was always dizzy during class.
I was just beaten up by a little girl, you know. I was just beaten up, you talk so lightly,

For example, in my live broadcast room, there was a sister-in-law who beat her husband and gave him a concussion.

My sister-in-law said that I only hit him twice, so how could he have a concussion?
Damn, we are all human beings, we are all made of flesh, even if he looks chubby and has a strong body,

If you hit him on the head twice, he’ll definitely have a concussion.”

. . . . . .

On the barrage

“When I was a kid, my cousin beat me until I was unconscious and never woke up again (laughing and crying).”

“Some small punches are really painful too hahahahahaha.”

“I was chased and beaten by a girl in primary school because of a minor conflict. I finally hid in the men’s bathroom and didn’t dare to come out (covering my face and laughing).”

Hahahahaha.

“Cold knowledge: It may not hurt when a girl hits someone, but it definitely hurts when a sister hits someone (dog head).”

“No kidding, I slapped my brother and a Five Finger Mountain appeared on his back, and it was the kind that wouldn’t go away overnight (sunglasses).”

“Bone Transforming Palm?”

puff~
“It’s so funny, hahahahahaha.”

. . . . . .

Woman: “I admit that I must have hurt him because I used all my strength to hit him, and he must have felt pain. Then he asked for a divorce from me.
Then I calmed down and thought that we already have a child, so I can’t just divorce him, and I still have a lot of feelings for him.”

Lin Feng waved his hand and said, “Alright, alright, stop pretending to be weak in front of me. I told you long ago that you are actually very strong.

You can leave in front of your children and slam the door when you are angry.

If someone pulls you, you can hit them in front of the child.

When it came time to get married, your father asked for 8 yuan. What did you do?

If he has been wronged before, he will complain about it and talk about it in front of you. In fact, he just wants you to protect him.
If you say something bad about your dad, he will calm down.
As a result, you slammed the door and you got angry.

You hit him with all your strength. I guess you jumped up and hit him.
Because he is definitely taller than you,
Since you are hitting with all your strength, you have to explode and you will definitely jump up.

With his child watching beside him, where is his dignity as a father?

Like a live broadcast I had before, it wasn’t like you were the one who was committing domestic violence, but rather they were fighting each other.

She first challenged her husband to a fight, and her husband responded to the fight.
Then the two of them fought one-on-one.
The process was also a back-and-forth fight.

I asked her who won in the end?

She said, “Brother, I am not a loser either.”
I’m right, as long as you don’t cry, you definitely don’t lose.

She later told me the details, saying that she slapped her husband more than 40 times.

Her husband held her there and hit her back.

I said that what you are doing is mutual fighting, sister-in-law, you are committing domestic violence.

You slapped your husband more than 40 times, and he slapped you back, but he just held you there.

You said this thing is a fight.

What nonsense?
If a man doesn’t fight back, he’s giving in to you. It doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt, okay?

Domestic violence by boys is domestic violence.
How can you describe domestic violence against a girl as mutual fighting?

You thing,
No,
Domestic violence against girls is also domestic violence.

You apologize. “

. . . . . .

On the barrage

“Oh my god, I’m going to jump up and hit him with all my strength (laughing and crying).”

“Just because a man doesn’t fight back doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt, hahahaha.”

“More than 40 slaps in the face, if it doesn’t hurt I wouldn’t press you (covering my face and laughing).”

“So domestic violence against girls is also domestic violence. This time I swear to stand on the side of the big brother (tears).”

“Tell me, who hit you?”

After that, another one was exposed.

Hahahahaha.

. . . . . .

Woman: “Actually, I apologized that night, but he’s still very angry. I wonder how I can win him back?”

Lin Feng: “You can’t do that. You should do this. According to the normal process of domestic violence, most girls who are subjected to domestic violence will go to the Women’s Federation.

Comrades from the Women’s Federation or social workers will come to protect you.
We will also make return visits on a long-term basis.

The boy had no choice because he didn’t have a husband’s contact.

Then you can go to the police station.

Bring your husband over there and have him write a letter of guarantee in front of Uncle Hat, saying that you will never hit him again.

Anyway, the police station is just mediating family matters.
Don’t call the police. If you go by yourself, the police won’t come because it’s a waste of police resources.

When you get to the police station, ask Uncle Hat for a piece of paper, write a letter of guarantee, and then both of you put your fingerprints on it. “

woman:….

. . . . . . .

On the barrage.

“There is no husband-wife alliance hahahahahaha.”

“Calling for the establishment of a national husbands’ federation…Are there any brothers who want to join? Let’s go (sunglasses).”

“I think that only by establishing a husbands’ union can we truly achieve gender equality, protect the rights of boys, and make boys no longer afraid of marriage (dog head).”

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Hahahahaha.

. . . . . . .

Lin Feng: “You hit him in front of the child, what a fool you are, what does the child think of his father?”

Woman: “I’ve never hit him before. This is my first time, so I might be a little emotional.”

Lin Feng waved his hand and said, “Don’t wash it, sister-in-law. There are only 0 times and countless times of domestic violence. Boys are afraid of that.”

Well. . .

Raymond Lam: “I didn’t say that, it was you girls who said that. You see, when girls advise girls, they always say that there are only 0 times and countless times of domestic violence.
Then how come girls don’t get addicted to beating boys?”

woman:. . .

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

“There are only 0 times and countless times of domestic violence, hahahahaha.”

“I didn’t say that. You sisters said that (laughing and crying).”

“Oh my god, I’m a girl and I couldn’t help laughing (laughing to death).”

“I am dying of laughter. How can he be so funny (covering face and laughing).”

“What a genius thinking, I like big brother so much, hahaha.”

. . . . . . .

Raymond Lam: “Let me ask you, did you enjoy the fight at that time?

Ask yourself, don’t lie to me.

When you jumped up and hit him with all your strength, you felt good or not, you can tell me for yourself.”

Woman: “…Yes, it is really cool.”

Look!

Lin Feng slammed the table and said, “If you dare to say you’re unhappy, I’ll hang up on you immediately because you’re hypocritical.

You said you were very angry at that time, and you hit him to vent your anger. Now that the anger was out, how could you not be unhappy?
Fortunately, you didn’t lie, so this microphone can continue.”

Woman: “…Because I wanted to go out, and he held me back and wouldn’t let me go, so I was very angry.”

Lin Feng: “Then you slammed the door and left in front of the child. Your husband might be considering the child and is pulling you away.

The other person was angry, and you went up to him and started hitting him with all your strength, and he didn’t fight back after that.”

Woman: “No, although he pulled me, he was in a very bad mood, and he wanted to go out, so he asked me to stay at home.”

Lin Feng: “Then your husband is also wrong, you two were rushing to go out in front of the child, to be honest, the child suffered a lot.

Because he not only wants to pull you, but also his father.

My God, without you, this family will be broken up. “

Well. . .

Woman: “Anyway, both of them were definitely at fault, but he asked for a divorce. I just don’t want to divorce him now. I just want to save the relationship. I sent him an apology on WeChat that night.”

Lin Feng: “Don’t apologize. If apologies were useful, there would be no need to hold a Women’s Federation meeting.”

Well. . .

Raymond Lam: “Put yourself in his shoes. If your husband beats you up and then sends you a text message to apologize, would you forgive him?
What nonsense.

I tell you, it’s no use just apologizing verbally at this time. You have to listen to me and do this.

When it’s time to go to bed at night, my brother might be angry like many of his sisters-in-law, and he would sleep on the edge of the bed, not letting you touch him or pay any attention to you.

Don’t worry about it, just go over and hug him.
Be careful here.
He might also elbow you like this, don’t touch me, don’t touch me, don’t touch me,

You also know that just holding it will be fine.
So even if someone elbows you, you still have to hug him, hug him, hug him, hug him.
I held him for a while and he didn’t move.

But at the beginning, he might be harder to press than the New Year’s pig.

But as long as you hold it down and kiss it, it will be fine after a while.

That’s what a couple does, they fight at the head of the bed and make up at the foot of the bed.”

. . . . . .

On the barrage

“I have to hold him! I have to hold him! I have to hold him! It’s harder to hold than the New Year pig! But as long as you hold it, it’s OK! (laughing and crying)”

“Hahahaha this is absolutely amazing, I can’t stop laughing hahahaha.”

“Exactly the same as my wife. Big brother really understands life.”

“It turns out that men and women get angry in the same way (laughing to death).”

“I learned it. Thank you, big brother.”

. . . . . . .

Lin Feng: “Just remember this, go over there and hold him down before you go to bed at night.

The more he struggles, the tighter you hold him.
But I have to remind you,
Don’t hit him anymore.
Don’t wait until he struggles and then you start banging away, or you’re done for.

What should he do when he is angry? At this time, you should dispel his emotions.
You hug him and say sorry to him, and the matter will be over.

Don’t hold on, you’re angry again, you’re angry again,
I said,
wrong,

My little sister said that there are only 0 times and countless times of domestic violence.

Don’t be satisfied with the beating, or I’ll slap you twice more.

sister in law,

All right,

He is a man, he is also a human being.

I feel sorry for my own husband.

A woman who beats her husband is not a real woman.

A truly capable woman will not beat her husband.

Remember that.”

After Lin Feng finished speaking, the comments on the forums burst into laughter.

“Don’t give me two more fucking slaps after you’re done beating me, hahahaha.”

“If I can’t hold it back, I might get another two slaps (laughing and crying).”

“Hahahaha this is so quintessential, there are really a lot of people who just explode again before they’re done trying to appease their children (laughing and crying).”

“Big Brother has another famous saying: A woman who beats her husband is not a real woman (dog head).”

Hahahaha. (End of this chapter)