Chapter 238 The light boat has passed through thousands of mountains!!

Raymond Lam:

“I saw many friends asking in the comments, how to win back your ex?

You guys,
If you don’t cherish the time you are together,
After losing, they start frantically trying to make up for it.

I tell you,
In reality, 80% of breakups are irreversible. If your partner falls in love with someone else, it is % irreversible.

If you still want to rely on writing essays or crying and begging, which is a way that loses your dignity, to keep the other person, then I advise you to give up, it is even more impossible.

remember,
If you can’t forget her, you have no choice but to endure it. If you feel sad, you have no choice but to endure it. You can cry, it’s not shameful.

If you want to return a lost relationship, at least one party needs to change, and that is whoever is suffering should change.

And the iron law of this world is that you can never change others.

If you want to change others, you have to change yourself, change yourself and focus on yourself.”

. . . . .

On the barrage.

“I was seamlessly connected, and I just couldn’t figure it out (crying to death).”

“I’m just like you. We loved each other very much. It’s only been a few days since we broke up, and she’s already with someone else. It’s too fast. I feel like I don’t recognize her anymore. How could this happen?”

“After a while, I figured it out.”

“Keep some dignity for yourself.”

“She didn’t fall in love with anyone else, it’s just that her parents don’t agree.”

“You still don’t love me firmly.”

“Dude, is it possible that the woman’s husband disagrees? (dog head)”

You,

Hahahahaha.

. . . . . . .

Raymond Lam:

“And you really just need to make a change?
Bros,
For this question, you must first understand one thing: winning back your ex is completely different from pursuing a new goal.

If we really compare,

It is more difficult to win back your ex than to pursue a girl again.

why?
Because you and your ex already have a certain understanding.

What kind of person are you?

What are your shortcomings?
Your ex knows it all.

So at this time, if you show your perfect side, the other party will not believe it.

They will think you are just pretending and that you will never change.

I feel that even if I get back together with you, you will still be the same as before and make the same mistakes again.

If you guys really think the other person is a good girl, it was you who let her down in your last relationship.

Then you want to redeem it at this time.

You must pay attention when changing yourself and showing yourself.

First, don’t fool yourself.

We just broke up a few days ago. What did you say? I have really changed. I am not the same as before.

Stop talking about her,

Ask yourself this, do you believe it?
Who can make such a drastic change in such a short time?

Impossible brothers.

I believe you realize the importance of change, but there is really more you need to do.

Second, you can lay the groundwork while you are changing. Don’t think about showing the results to the other party all at once. This is simply not realistic.
But in this process, you can show the small progress you have made to others.

You let him see that you are determined to change and that you are showing signs of change.

This can greatly increase your ex’s willingness to observe you and improve the chances of successful reunion.

3. Don’t be too sensitive.
Because everything you do may be denied by your ex.
But you don’t have to be afraid.
As long as you insist on doing the right thing, the other party will see it.

It’s just that when you were together, he/she had given you countless chances, but you didn’t cherish them.
Or maybe you’re only fine for three to five days, and then you relapse again.

You are just like the story of the boy who cried wolf.

So it is normal for your ex to still be skeptical and deny you despite your current changes.

You just have to keep doing your thing.

Finally, don’t be impatient.

Don’t rush to get back together with your ex just because he or she shows some signs of returning to you.
If you ask for reconciliation at this time, you will most likely be rejected.

And even if the other party agrees.

Are you really ready?

By the time you’ve been together for three to five days, your true colors will be revealed, and then you’ll really have no chance at all.

So you should first make your relationship as close as good friends, then reduce the frequency of taking the initiative and wait for her to come to you.
Then, you just need to respond enthusiastically.

But after you reply, if she doesn’t come to see you, you shouldn’t go to see her either.

In this way, the other party will feel that every time he looks for you, he can at least get an equal amount of emotional value.
Reject invalid chats.

At the same time, you have to keep showing off your social circle.

Show your new look and new life.

So I ask the lickers, when is a licker most charming?
That must be when you are not licking. “

. . . . .

On the barrage.

“The licker provides emotional value, and the one being licked relies on the emotional value. The licker takes what he wants, and the one being licked is left standing there, worried and anxious (dog head).”

“I know why I’m happy now, because I always half-lick (my sunglasses).”

“When you don’t want to lick and turn around, you can go from low to high in an instant and make the other person suffer.”

“Hahaha, indeed, the initiative lies in your hands.”

“A sober bootlicker is not a bootlicker, but a provider of emotional value, a controller of emotions, and a wise man who can get love at the lowest cost.”

Licking the door forever!!
. . . . .

“Host, please introduce yourself.”

There are many similar comments.

Lin Feng smiled and said: “There are many new friends here today, and they may not know me very well.
OK.

Let me introduce myself.”

Lin Feng cleared his throat and prepared to speak.
Suddenly paused,
He looked down at the computer desk drawer.

Then he took out a yellowed notebook.

This was what Lin Feng discovered a week after he traveled through time.

It records the original owner’s five years of live streaming experience.

Shaking the notebook in his hand, Lin Feng smiled and said to the live studio:
“Everyone, please ignore the notebook I’m using called Postpartum Care for Sows.

Because there is really no other book.
However, it also brings together my journey along the way and what I want to say to everyone.

2016 years,
I am a sophomore in college.

That year, Alipay was on the Spring Festival Gala list, people across the country collected the five blessings, Trump became the president of the United States, and Wang Jianlin set a small goal of 100 million.

Leo finally realized his dream and won the Oscar for Best Actor. Of course, this year also saw a turning point that changed my life. The mobile live broadcast industry exploded, and more than 200 mobile live broadcast apps were launched overnight.

My family is not well off, but my parents worked hard to send me to university.

I am studying broadcasting and hosting at Dongshan Art College.

At that time, I thought my future would be in a studio full of spotlights, cameras, and teleprompters.

The future will surely be filled with suits and bright lights.

On March 3, my senior brother shared his live broadcast link on WeChat Moments.

Out of curiosity, I clicked into the live broadcast room and downloaded the AP that started my live broadcast journey.

Maybe it was luck, a lot of people came to my first live broadcast. They asked me my age, where I went to school, what major I was in, and everything about me.

I pretended to joke and responded seriously to every comment.

I am 18 years old, I am majoring in village loudspeaker broadcasting, I am your sweetheart, etc.

It seems that there is a vivid face behind every ID, fascinated by me.

I enjoy the feeling of being surrounded by people. Maybe I was born to be a live broadcaster.
I earned 80 yuan from my first live broadcast.

At that time, I was thinking, if I made 80 a day, that would be 2400 a month, and I wouldn’t have to ask my parents for living expenses.

My family was not very well off at that time. My parents opened a steamed bun shop next to the recycling station.

Because the rent was cheap, my father’s feet and hands would get cracked every winter.

Because my mother worked late all year round, she would fall asleep on her tricycle while delivering steamed buns.

But none of these could stop them from loving me.
I have an inferiority complex, and I am sensitive and strong-willed. So I started live streaming again the next day, and I couldn’t stop from then on.

Perhaps it was because I caught the right trend, I felt like a fish in water and my income also increased rapidly.

Half a year later, I gave my family 10 yuan. My mother was terrified and forced me to turn myself in.

At that time, no one knew that I was doing live streaming. After doing it a few times, I gradually felt that live streaming had a lot in common with my major.

So I put what I learned from school into practice in my live broadcast.

I am a professional, and the art of language sets me apart from other anchors.

From the initial chat host to outdoor store exploration, adventure, and live PK,

During this time, I began to absorb everything about live broadcasts on TV and the Internet.
I began to analyze my audience, plan content, and do precise positioning. I immersed myself in the joy of live streaming, which made my last two years of college life extremely fulfilling.

I participated in many competitions, won many awards, and everything went smoothly.

It’s luck and hard work.

Two years later, my live streaming reached its peak, and I was at the top of the platform in terms of both popularity and revenue.

Slowly, I was drowned in applause, surrounded by flowers, and confused by the income.

As the live broadcast industry becomes more and more popular, people of all kinds have started live broadcasting.

Everyone was complaining about the internet anchors crazily, and I also had a lot of labels on me, such as internet beggar, gigolo, etc.

After graduation, all my classmates entered the radio station, and my parents asked me to go home and take the civil service exam.

The live streaming industry is not a particularly popular job at the moment, but these doubts did not make me give up.

What really made me give up was exhaustion and the mess that my real life was.

I had no friends, no life, no holidays, and my parents passed away forever in a car accident two months later.

I was devastated and quit the Internet for three months.

When I came back, everything had changed.

Because the fans are replaced too quickly.

At that time, I was worried about gains and losses. I became afraid of losing and felt that all the flowers and applause were virtual, but there was nothing I could do.

I faced new faces one after another, who gradually became familiar to me and then suddenly disappeared.

I still have to put away all my emotions and perform a funny show the moment I turn on the live broadcast.
Because I know deeply that I have to continue to please my new fans.

From this moment on, I was filled with the seeds of retreat and escape.

In the second half of the year, by chance, my resume was seen by someone and I went to Kyoto through an introduction.

Two months later, I appeared on TV as an artiste.

I have released singles, made guest appearances in film and television dramas, appeared on variety shows, and was on Weibo’s hot searches twice.

I got to know the most talked-about female host at the time, Cai Moukun who became extremely popular in Idol Producer in the same year, and many actors and artists.

After the show aired, I started to frantically search for my name and my fans in the comments.
Although there are few,

When I was recording the show that day, the director asked me to start the live show.
I frantically searched for my fans in the comments, but no one knew me before the show aired.
The director team didn’t know me, the filming crew didn’t know me, and none of the artists knew me. Only my live broadcast fans knew me.
They treat me as the brightest heart.

At that time, the live broadcast was still in the recording stage. I saw someone on the public screen saying that you have lost a lot of weight.
Care about my words,

Many people are familiar with my ID.

At that moment, I burst into tears and was speechless. No one could understand me, only I.

It was they who let me know that I also have fans, and it was they who gave me the achievements I have now.

Later, after the recording was completed and the show started, I frantically looked for my fans in the barrage. Although there were few of them, they were like a bright lamp shining brightly.

After the show aired, I started my career as an artist with a heart that strived to prove myself, but life is not always smooth sailing.
Hardships and difficulties are the real topic of growth.

My economic company was about to close down due to financial problems, and the attendant problems followed one after another. My team was disbanded on the spot, and I didn’t get a penny for my labor.

In this big city where everyone is rich, I don’t even have a place to live.

My body changed and I became depressed.

That year I returned to my hometown, and I wanted to return to live streaming like before, but by then people had left me and the changes in the Internet had caused me to fall into despair.

It’s okay, start over.

Not everyone can be the sun, so if I can be a star, can I also emit a faint light?

That year, the contract with the old platform expired, and I came to Douyin at the end of the year.

It’s a pity that it has always been lukewarm.

The first label for me is live streamer.

For the next two years, I did two live broadcasts every day, rain or shine.

Although I didn’t have many fans, I started to live a crazy life, perform crazily, and learn all the things I wouldn’t normally do.
I started to laugh like crazy.

I was mentally prepared, but the limitations of being an entertainment anchor made me feel the gap again.

My mentality was crushed by one excellent anchor after another… “

The notes end here.

Lin Feng closed his notebook and continued, “But it doesn’t matter, I keep reflecting and improving myself.

In June, I switched to content creation and started emotional counseling.

From then on, no one asked about my five years of hard work, but my free trick became known to the world.

The popularity of the live broadcast room began to gradually increase, from dozens, hundreds, thousands, 1, 2, 3, and then to today’s 5+.

Some people say I’m lucky.
Only I know that I am not lucky.

The popularity of emotional live broadcast comes from my years of accumulation.

It is to make up for the regrets of the past, and to teach you what I didn’t say at the beginning.

It is the reason to get emotional protection from parents.

It is also a requirement for one’s own correct values.

Today,

I want to say to myself: The boat has passed through thousands of mountains! ! “

(I will be very busy on business this week, so the updates will be unstable. Please forgive me, brothers. I will make up for it next week.)
(End of this chapter)