Chapter 138 The Ceiling of Human Love

Raymond Lam: “Sister, have you noticed that you are always particularly insecure in the world of love?

Then you will pay too much attention to the other person’s actions,

And you will often doubt your own value and your partner’s motives.

At the same time, you may not be confident enough.
There is always a feeling that you can’t do anything well, and the other person is your salvation in life and can help you accomplish many things.

Another question is, do you often have some possessiveness and inexplicable desire for control?
We often get angry and quarrel with each other over trivial matters.”

Girl: “Yes, I will.”

Raymond Lam: “Come, let me ask you again, when you are with someone, do you become addicted to intimate contact?
For example, you would regard the other person holding your hand and hugging you, as well as other intimate behaviors, as a way of showing that you care about her and love her.
The more active intimacy he gives you, the more at ease you will feel.”

Girl: “Yes, I do.”

. . . . .

On the barrage.

It’s over.

I ate a melon late at night and got diagnosed.

“Every sentence doesn’t mention me, but every sentence talks about me.”

“It was confirmed on Douyin just like that.”

“Hahahaha, I’m the same.”

“It turns out to be anxious attachment. I thought I was cheap (laughing and crying).”

“It actually means the same thing (dog head).”

What the hell!

Ruthless

Hahahahaha.

. . . . . .

Lin Feng: “Miss, these are typical attachment anxiety types. You are just not confident in yourself.
And now the other party has obviously cooled down their feelings towards you. It’s very simple. The other party is tired of playing with you.”

Girl: “Ah? Is he tired of it?”

Lin Feng: “Sister, your personality will make you regard the other person as the whole world in a relationship, which is very easy to make others feel disgusted.

Because you give too much, you put all of yourself into the other person, which will make the other person feel that the food is tasteless.

But because of your good looks and the personal aura of the painter, you are particularly able to attract others in the early stage.
But once you fall in love, you immediately enter the anxious attachment personality, and it is very strong.

With your personality, every relationship will not go smoothly.”

. . . . .

On the barrage.

“I have an anxious attachment personality, and then I fell in love with someone with an avoidant attachment personality, and I almost got myself into trouble.”

“The avoidant type tells you that you will drive him crazy too.”

“Yes, both of them went crazy in the end.”

“Why do avoidant people go crazy? Isn’t avoidant people cold and violent?”

“Because the anxious type is the ultimate hot violence, a collision of hot and cold, anyone who touches it will go crazy.”

Hahahahaha, they’re all crazy.

This world is so crazy!
. . . . .

Raymond Lam: “I also need to refer to your original family here. Come on. Is the love your parents give you stable? What is your family atmosphere like?”

The girl was silent for a moment and said, “I come from a divorced family and I started working very early.”

Lin Feng sighed softly: “So we say that the formation of anxious attachment personality is probably caused by the fact that one’s original family does not give enough love and care to oneself, and is unstable.

Love comes and goes, which makes you feel anxious and attached. “

. . . . .

On the barrage.

“I was raised by my mom since I was little. My dad was absent, so I was very anxious. Once the other person didn’t reply to my message or replied slowly, or the attitude was a little cold, my world would collapse. It was a hearty breakdown.”

“I empathize with you so much.”

“Anxious attachment drives away the people who love them, which is called acting (laughing to death).” “No, the sense of security of anxious attachment is a bottomless pit. They are so crazy that they have to control everything about the other person to confirm that someone really loves them.”

“At the same time, they clearly lack love, but they are willing to give their true heart first, and they are 100% sincere. Although their behavior may be a little crazy, in this era of fast-food love, aren’t such people worth cherishing?”

“Oh my god, I’m almost crying.”

. . . . . .

Raymond Lam: “Miss, you have to pay attention to your personal character cultivation, so that you can ensure that you can be comfortable in every subsequent relationship.
Otherwise, you will easily become attached again and give your all to the other person.

This is giving the other party the right to stab you.

This is also the reason why you have an inexplicable ambiguous relationship with someone who is 30 years older than you.

Because you are missing something inside.

You have to get busy!

You are only in your 20s, and your painting life has just begun.”

Girl: “Can we still make peace?”

Raymond Lam: “I can only say that if your focus is still on the other person, you will not be cherished.

And now people are fed up with you.
If the other person meets someone new at this time, you will definitely be let go.”

Girl: “If you’re tired of it, is there any hope?”

Raymond Lam: “If you leave someone you are tired of, he will regain his attraction to you only if you leave first.

My advice to you is to travel more, collect materials, and paint more.”

Girl: “But I like the one-on-one relationship where I am only good to you and you are only good to me, and we are very devoted to each other.”

Lin Feng: “Sister, to put it nicely, you are in love passionately, but to put it bluntly, you are in a deformed relationship that satisfies your sense of security.”

“Yes, maybe you love sincerely, but don’t forget that love is an experience for two people. It’s not enough for you to be passionate.
You also need to see if the other person can accept your love.

If he can’t accept it, then from his point of view, this is not love, but shackles and bondage.

So I often tell my brothers,

It is not enough to just know how to love, we must first find the right person.

If he is right.

He will definitely understand your love, and even more so your anxiety and sadness.”

. . . . .

On the barrage.

“He Will Understand Your Love” and “He Will Understand Your Anxiety and Sadness”

“Oh my god, I want to cry.”

“Military advisor, what you said is very good.”

“I’m a boy and I really don’t want to be anxious anymore (crying). Even though I know the other person loves me, I still can’t help but seek recognition. In fact, I really don’t want anything. I just want her to love me (crying crying crying)”

“Brother who packs clowns.”

“I want to ask if this anxious attachment type will get jealous easily?”

“Of course I will. After all, I am anxious.”

“No, I want to ask if you get jealous even in normal social situations?”

“Yes, after all, we are all anxious.”

Well. . .

She was confused.

Hahahahahaha.

. . . .

Attached

[Military advisor’s comments: Attachment anxious personality is the ceiling of human love and will never lose the ability to love.

Love is like light to them, and they are the ones who pursue the light.

I was born for love, pure and true! 】

(End of this chapter)