Chapter 125 Do you know the subtext of breaking up and getting back together?
“So brothers,
Maturity may not be defined by age.

Some people are still living a life of idleness and waiting to die at the age of 25.
Some people are still idle at the age of 30.

Some people start helping their parents share the pressure when they are 17 or 18 years old.

So can you say that maturity can be divided according to age?”

Not necessarily!
All right,

Connect to the next microphone.

Ding~
“Hello, military advisor.”

It’s a girl.

Lin Feng: “Hello, are you having any problems, sister?”

“Military Advisor, I want to analyze my ex-boyfriend’s mentality.”

Raymond Lam: “Ex-boyfriend, so you two are broken up now?”

“Yeah that’s right.”

Lin Feng: “Are you still in touch with him now? Are you still in touch with him?”

“No, there is no contact anymore.”

Lin Feng smiled: “Then why are you analyzing him now? You have nothing to do.”

“I just can’t let it go.”

Lin Feng nodded: “Okay, how long have you been apart?”

“Almost half a year.”

???

Raymond Lam: “It’s been half a year since we broke up, and we haven’t had any contact in the meantime?”

“I contacted him but he never answered my calls.”

Lin Feng put down the blackboard: “We are not sisters. You made me laugh. What are you still studying? The negotiation is broken. The other party doesn’t love you anymore.”

“I know our relationship broke down, but I don’t know what his mentality is, because we started dating with the purpose of getting married.
Then he started to like going out and playing, and I was very strict with him. He became unhappy and started to rebel against me.

In fact, at the beginning, we were pretty good together.

After being together for two months, he took me home to meet his parents.

But then he started going out and stopped answering the phone. . . ”

stop!
Lin Feng waved his hand and interrupted, “Sister, I don’t think we need to continue talking.

I am an emotional strategist. I can help you analyze your emotional problems, including some of the contradictions therein, and help you weigh the pros and cons.

But you have already split up.

There is no emotion at all.

What do you want me to analyze?

of course,

Since you spent 100 yuan to connect to the microphone,
You consumed.

I definitely won’t let you get nothing.

Then what follows is this,

Let me briefly analyze what you just said.

Can’t you let it go?
Then the military advisor will let you see the truth today.”

At this time, someone said on the barrage:

“Military Advisor, why are you so impatient? Let the girl finish her words first.”

Lin Feng smiled and said, “No need, buddy, because once she mentioned this thing, I basically knew it.

This is experience.

After listening to this, you will know why I am a military advisor and you are not.

All right, sister.”

Girl: “Well, Military Advisor, you tell me.”

Raymond Lam: “Sister, when the other party first started dating you, they had relatively good expectations of you, so they took you home to meet their parents after two months of dating.

This means that at this stage, he hopes to have a future with you.

but,

As you get along with each other later, he finds that you have a strong desire to control him and he does not feel free.

The other person’s love experience instantly becomes bad.

As a result, some of my views on you have changed.

He began to weigh the pros and cons.

He realizes that you don’t match what he initially imagined a girlfriend to be like.

Eventually he broke up with you.

It is also an act of wanting to get off.

To put it bluntly, I just don’t love you anymore.

He sees your relationship as a trial and error.

Of course, this does not mean that you are wrong. It only means that in his personal subjective cognition, he will think that you are wrong and you are the wrong person.

Understand? “

Girl: “Military Advisor, but he was pretty nice to me at the beginning, and we broke up and got back together before, so we couldn’t bear to let each other go.”

Lin Feng shook his head and said, “Sister, the essence of breaking up and getting back together is not how much you love each other. There is a subtext in it.”

Saying,

Lin Feng picked up the small blackboard and wrote;
“The subtext of breaking up and getting back together is dissatisfaction.” After the two of them broke up, he didn’t meet anyone better, so he kept going around in circles.

In fact, he is not that satisfied with you.

That is what I just said, the result of a bad love experience.

Girl: “He once said that if he broke up with me, he was afraid he wouldn’t meet someone better than me.”

Lin Feng smiled: “Sister, the other party has already made it very clear, it’s you who didn’t understand.

This seems to be a very romantic sentence.
There is nothing romantic about it in its essence.

Because it’s a compromise!”

???

The girl looked confused.

Lin Feng: “Think about it, sister, what does it mean to be afraid of not meeting a better person after losing you? To put it bluntly, he has better expectations and aspirations, but he also thinks you are pretty good.”

Girl: “Are you really just going to make do?”

Lin Feng spread his hands: “What else? Didn’t they tell you the answer with their actual actions later?”

It’s been half a year since you broke up, and you’ve been in contact with the other person for half a year, but he or she hasn’t answered your call once.

If I really love you,
Can I be so decisive to you?
The girl was silent.

Lin Feng knocked on the blackboard and said to the live studio: “The above remarks are not specific to gender, please take them as they are.”

. . . . .

On the barrage.

The subtext of “On and Off” is that I’m not satisfied with you, but I haven’t met anyone better.

“I’m afraid I won’t find anyone better after breaking up with you” is essentially a compromise.

my God!

Three perspectives shattered!!
is this real?
Tangtang: “People who have experienced it will tell you that it is true. Breaking up and getting back together is not a sign of deep feelings, but a constant weighing of pros and cons.”

Gouzi: “I broke up and got back together with my ex-girlfriend four times (dog head) and it didn’t work out. But when we broke up the last time, I really didn’t feel sad at all. Instead, I felt extremely relieved.”

Ayun: “Bullshit, we always quarrel and have cold wars, but we still love each other very much.”

Happy Brother: “Exactly, these words of the dog-headed military advisor have harmed so many young people. No one has a smooth love life. On the contrary, the more quarrelsome the relationship is, the deeper it is. Everyone has a running-in period.”

“No quarrels usually won’t separate.”

“We quarreled but never separated.”

Xiao Wan: “Maybe you two really have a foundation for love, but if you don’t change this way of getting along, one day you will run out of energy and separate.”

The stream flows: “Meow, when did breaking up and getting back together count as true love? Then what does staying together and never leaving count as true love?”

Clicked.

. . . . .

Raymond Lam: “I see that everyone is arguing about breaking up and getting back together. Some people say that you guys are always breaking up and getting back together. There are better people around you, but you guys haven’t betrayed each other.

Dude,

That’s because you ignore the moral constraints involved.

For example, you are not satisfied with her.
But the family education you received since childhood and the values ​​you have been taught since childhood have made you a person with a strong sense of morality.

Then you can probably resist the temptation at this time.

But it doesn’t mean that you are 100% satisfied with her.

Your satisfaction with a person does not mean whether you quarrel or not, nor does it mean whether you love him or not.

Do you understand me, buddy?

Moreover, you have a strong sense of morality and can restrain yourself, but can you guarantee that the other party will have the same sense as you?”

In a flash,

The public screen also fell silent.

After a moment, the girl said, “Military Advisor, but when we first started, we had a really good relationship.”

Raymond Lam: “Sister, what you said is really childish. Whose good person isn’t sweet during the sweet period of love?
All sweet.

Everyone is the same.

They all come this way.

Whether a relationship can last and whether it is sincere or not can only be revealed after the sweet period.

Because everyone will pretend during the period of passionate love.

They only show their good side to each other.

But over time, each other’s shortcomings were exposed.

At this time, some people can accept it, and some people cannot.

Those who accept it are together, and those who can’t accept it will just separate.

If you can’t understand why they broke up when they were so sweet at the beginning?

Let me give you the simplest example.

We were fine at the beginning, but I slapped you in the face every day.

Will you ignore the pain of these slaps in the face just because I have been nice to you before?
Maybe you can.

But that only represents you.

You can’t make everyone think the same as you.

Isn’t it? “

The girl was silent again.

(End of this chapter)