Raymond Lam: “Really brothers,

The military advisor was also framed by a villain.
He was forced to join the Liangshan bandits out of helplessness.

Otherwise, do you think I am willing to be the teacher’s lackey?

Life is forcing us, brothers.
For example, when class is about to start, I crumple up a piece of paper and throw it into the trash can behind me.

There happened to be a person sitting next to the trash can.

I didn’t even throw it at him, it just flew over his head and into the trash can.
He glared at me and said he was going to beat me up, then said he was going to find his brother, and said his brother was hanging out with someone else and that he was the boss, so I shouldn’t leave after school.

There’s nothing I can do, brother.

In that era, if you wanted to avoid being beaten, you had to be the teacher’s lackey.

At that time, our class teacher was also the grade director. He was very famous in our school. The school bullies would lower their heads and walk away when they saw him.

You all want to beat me up, right? Then I run to the office every day after class and whisper the news to the head teacher.
They were all very angry at me, but they were also afraid that I would report them. So even though more people wanted to beat me up, no one really dared to do it.

Then of course I’m living a good life.

You can isolate me if you want, as long as you don’t bully me, right?
So if anyone was in a relationship or did something wrong, I would report it to the teacher immediately.

I am the intelligence center of our class teacher.”

. . . . .

On the barrage.

“I’m not happy with you, so I’ll ask my brother to beat you up. Don’t leave after school (dog head).”

“I walked too slowly before the flag-raising ceremony in junior high school, and a hooligans in my class kicked me twice. I didn’t tolerate him, so I pushed him to the ground and beat him. As a result, after school, a bunch of them blocked me in the toilet and beat me up (covering my face).”

“I was often bullied by this kind of people in junior high school. Later, I put a baton in my school bag every day (haha).”

“There were so many yellow-haired people back then, hahaha.”

“The military advisor is smart. Being isolated is better than being bullied.”

“Although that’s true, for children, most of them want to be with others, so…”

“Remember what the military advisor said. We go to school to learn knowledge, not to make friends. After a few years, who will know who and who will love who (dog head)?”

“Besides, who said I was isolated? It was me who isolated them all (sunglasses).”

Clicked.

“The pattern has been opened up, and I am no longer anxious.”

. . . . . .

Lin Feng: “That’s roughly what I mean. Sister, do you have any questions?”

Girl: “Military Advisor, I have a soft personality, probably because of my family, because my mother is a very strong type,

I have been working for two years, and every month I have to give all my salary to my mother.”

Lin Feng: “Does your mother give you living expenses?”

Girl: “Yes, actually my mother saved our money. Part of it was used to build a house in our hometown, and the other part was used when we needed to do something and she would take it out when we told her.”

Lin Feng: “Your mother saved it for you and gave it to you when you need it, isn’t that good? It’s not like you’re taking it for yourself.”

Girl: “But I changed jobs this year, and the salary is not as high as the last job, and the amount I hand in is also a little less. Her attitude is that you should not go out to work, but go back home to help out.

Because my family runs a small factory and we are short of people.

She asked me to go back to help, but I didn’t want to, and I didn’t know how to deal with this matter with her.”

Lin Feng shook his head and said, “This is the girl who grew up under the suppression of her strong mother. She is an adult now and has a job, but she has no opinion of her own.

younger sister,

You need to stand up.

Your personality is not independent.”

Girl: “But… I don’t want to argue with her. I have never liked quarrels since I was a child.”

Lin Feng rolled his eyes: “Who told you to quarrel with your mother? I told you to be brave and express your own ideas.

How simple is this question?

If you don’t want to go back, you can say to your mother:

I work hard outside, but at least I get paid a month.

If it’s okay to help out at home, can mom get a salary?

If my mother says that she can get a relatively high salary, then it would be fine for me to go back.

If my mother doesn’t get paid and I still have to hand over the money to her every month, that won’t work.

why not?
I’m not asking you to argue with her.

You just say that I can’t add burden to the family, and I don’t want you, my mother, to work so hard, right?

I’m obviously not doing very well at home, and I think you’re very tired, mom. I want to help share a little bit of the burden at home.

Isn’t this a beautiful statement?

You expressed your thoughts without contradicting your mother, right? “

Girl: “But we just can’t communicate now. Her attitude is very tough. I feel like if I don’t satisfy her in the slightest, she will get really mad and scold me fiercely. Her whole mood is very unstable.”

Your mother is sick, sister.

Lin Feng knocked on the blackboard and said, “Come on, sister, this move is not usually taught by military advisors. I see that you are also destined to learn it, so I will give it to you today.

Remember, her instability is her business.

She is unstable, so you just need to be stable.

If she scolds you, you cry.

While crying, I blamed myself: Mom, I am useless. I didn’t earn enough money outside and I didn’t share the burden with you.

Mom, I know you are tired. I am really useless.

Hey,
Sister,

You just cry and that’s it.

Mom, I know you’ve worked hard. You raised me up, but I haven’t contributed anything to the family.

Do you understand? Then you cry.

Taking this opportunity, I dumped all the work garbage outside on her.

Mom, there are a bunch of idiots in my unit who isolate me every day and say bad things about me behind my back.

Mom, I feel so useless and I can’t have good interpersonal relationships.

Over time,
If you believe me, she won’t call you.

Why?

Because I can’t call her back anyway, and if I say a few words to you, you start crying, and then after crying you dump work trash on me.

Living with your dead dad is annoying enough every day, and she has to listen to you crying and complaining. She can’t stand it.

younger sister,

Do you know what this is called?

This is the emotional trash can in the world of love.

Now apply this to your relationship with your mother. You treat her as your trash can. Whenever she is unstable, you cry and take out the trash.

Mom, my boss scolded me again today. He called me a pig. “

Girl: “But I feel like if I say that, my mom will ask me to go back even more.”

You thing,
You must not have understood!

Lin Feng knocked on the blackboard: “Come on sister, let me give you an example, do you have friends around you who like to complain to you?

For example, quarreling with your boyfriend every day, or complaining about your company boss every day?

Of course there is.

There are too many people like this in reality.

When he complains to you at the beginning, we will definitely feel like a Buddha, and comfort, persuade, and help him in various ways.

But you will find that there is a type of person who just complains for the sake of complaining, and they don’t listen to or refer to any method you say.

What is this called?
This is what happens when people treat you as an emotional trash can.

After a while, do you still listen to him?

Listen to shit.

If you see it on the road, just take a detour.

If it happens to your mother, wouldn’t your mother be unstable?
Don’t you think you earn too little?
You cry when she scolds you.

You blame yourself, mom, I’m useless, I deserve to die, I can’t make money, I can’t help mom share the pressure, wuwuwu.

When your mother heard this, she was absolutely stunned.

I originally had a lot of things I wanted to say to scold you, but you ended up scolding yourself first.

She was like punching cotton.

I even want to comfort you.

At this time, you take the opportunity to complain to her about your troubles at work. You say this colleague isolates me, that colleague isolates me, and the boss doesn’t like me either.

They all say I’m stupid.

At this time, your mother will definitely comfort you. Don’t cry, daughter. My daughter is the best and the most outstanding. If you are unhappy working outside, just come home. Mom will support you.

remember,

Our main goal is to stick to criticism but never change.

The more your mother comforts you, the more you cry, and the more you say you are useless and refuse to go back.

If I can’t cry, I just sigh and feel uncomfortable, annoyed, painful, and unable to sleep.

The one who is suffering at this time is your mother.

She will think, I told you to come back but you didn’t listen, you are useless.

After a long time, she couldn’t stand it anymore.

Do you understand? “

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

“I told you but you didn’t listen” “I told you to come back but you didn’t” “You just look like a useless dead man”

“Summary: Treat your mom like a trash can (dog head).”

Hahahaha.

“How many strange ideas does this clever guy have in his head (laughing to death).

“He is so smart. I have never seen such a smart person (haha).”

“There is nothing a military advisor doesn’t know. He can provide a solution to any problem.”

“As soon as he turned his eyes, I felt like he was preparing for a big move (sunglasses).”

Hahahahaha.

. . . . . .

Girl: “But I feel like these things are not very useful to her.”

Fuck you.

Lin Feng: “Your feelings are useless. If you feel useful, you won’t be isolated when you go to school, and you won’t be tied down by your family when you go out to work.”

The girl suddenly fell silent.

Lin Feng said slowly: “But there is one thing that is worth encouraging, you have already learned the essence.”

???

The girl looked confused.

Lin Feng smiled and said, “You didn’t sleep at night and came to complain to me. I said a lot of nonsense, but you said that these words were useless to my mother.

younger sister,

You have already attained enlightenment.”

Uh. .

Lin Feng: “Remember, what I teach you is a sorcery that can wear down a person’s character.”

Girl: “What if she says something cruel to me and tells me not to come back?”

Lin Feng: “Same sister, no matter what your mother says, you always look useless.

If she doesn’t let you go back, you will cry.

I cried and said: Mom, no, what if you abandon me too?

I don’t have any friends outside.

Woo woo woo, I’m so pitiful.

Mom, please don’t abandon me.

What is this called?
In ancient times, that would be called doing the opposite.

Now that’s called reverse pua!”

Uh. .

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

“Do the opposite” = “Reverse PUA”

“The truth is simplicity, hahaha.”

“I really used this trick before. I treated my mom like a trash can. She collapsed and suffered from insomnia for several days. She even went on vacation and ignored me (covering her face).”

“I didn’t understand it before, but now when my mom comes to me, I blame everything and everyone around me. She’s afraid of me now (hahaha).”

“Fuck, I finally got it. Just use magic to defeat magic. If he complains to you, if he tells you that you have a hard life, you should say that your life is harder and worse. Let’s see whose life is harder (dog head).”

“It turns out that I have been doing reverse PUA and I didn’t even know it (laughing to death).”

“I really admire the military advisor’s wisdom.”

. . . . . . .

Lin Feng: “Sister, remember, mom will never stop you from going home.

Let’s put aside the ties of family ties and talk about reality.

As long as you do well outside and have your own money, you are valuable.

No one would resist a daughter of wealth and status coming home.

Besides, your mother is after your money, and you know this better than anyone else.”

The girl nodded: “Yes.”

Raymond Lam: “So remember, no matter what she says to you, you just cry, it means I am useless, I can’t help my mother.

I just can’t stand up, I am a hopeless person.

Let me tell you, this is wearing down her faith.

What I am teaching you today are all sorcery techniques that produce immediate results.

You must think it through.

Because you have a soft personality, have been isolated since childhood, and have been pua when you grow up, if I don’t care about you, your future fate may be miserable.

So I make an exception and teach you witchcraft.

Do you understand?

If this can’t teach you, then no one can save you.”

Girl: “I understand, Advisor. I just recorded the screen. I will definitely watch it over and over again and study it over and over again.”

“Okay, let’s go down then.”

Hang up the mic,
Raymond Lam said to the live studio:
“Brothers, remember this.
The best response to refusing to consume is to consume the opponent.

Encountering strong parents.

I am just the kind of person who doesn’t strive for success.
Can’t stand up either.
I can’t help myself up.
If you scold me, I will cry.

It means constantly denying yourself.

In fact, many strong parents in life have a behavior, which is to use their children as outlets for their emotions.

In fact, they don’t need any advice from their children, because as parents, they generally don’t think that their children’s advice is right.
I simply treat you as a trash can and want to complain about you.

Now that you have finished complaining, you feel good, but I feel uncomfortable, and my life, work and mood are all bad.

How to do?
Very simple.

You treat me as an emotional trash can, and I treat you as an emotional trash can.

Let’s see who can outlast the other.”

. . . . . . .

On the barrage.

The best way to respond to consumption is to consume others

“Refuse to waste your energy, just go crazy if something happens (dog head).”

Hahahaha.

“I understand, but I may not be able to do it when I’m facing my family.”

“It means that I haven’t pushed them to that point yet. I still want to save face. I am different now. If I ask for money for marriage or childbirth, no one will ask me immediately. If someone asks me, they will just cry poor and ask for money (dog head).”

High!

“I used your tricks to the extreme, and they all said I was crazy (sunglasses).”

“Whatever they say, just cry (raised eyebrow).”

Hahahaha. (End of this chapter)